Ah, cross-selling and up-selling—those magical phrases that often strike fear into the hearts of even the most seasoned professionals. For many, they evoke images of the pushy salesperson: the one constantly hovering, waiting for a customer to so much as glance at an extra item before swooping in with a sales pitch.

But here’s the thing: cross-selling and up-selling shouldn’t feel like selling at all. In fact, if done right, it should feel more like offering helpful advice from a trusted consultant. The difference between these two mindsets is huge, and adopting the former can revolutionise your approach—and results.

So, how do you shift your thinking from salesperson to consultant? Let’s break it down.

The Consultant Mindset: Solving, Not Selling

The fundamental difference between a consultant and a salesperson is in their approach. A salesperson is focused on transactions, while a consultant is focused on solutions. When it comes to cross-selling and up-selling, this distinction is critical.

  • Salesperson’s Approach: “Here’s a product you might also like. Let me convince you why you should buy it.”
  • Consultant’s Approach: “You mentioned you were having trouble with this aspect. Here’s a product that might solve that problem and make things easier for you.”

A consultant listens to their client’s needs, assesses their challenges, and offers solutions. The key is understanding the customer’s pain points, goals, or ambitions, and presenting additional products or services as valuable answers, rather than unnecessary extras.

Cross-Selling and Up-Selling are About Enhancing Value

At its core, cross-selling and up-selling should never be about making a quick buck. Instead, it’s about adding value to your customer’s experience. If you can think of it as enhancing their journey with your product or service, then it shifts from a sales-driven tactic to a customer-focused strategy.

Consider this: Imagine you’re in a café. You’ve ordered a coffee, and the barista says, “If you’re looking for a stronger energy boost today, we can add an extra shot of espresso for just 50p. Or, if you’re after something more filling, we’ve got a great breakfast deal with that same coffee.” You don’t feel pressured—because the barista’s advice is based on your needs, not theirs.

In business, the same principle applies. The more value you can offer, the more likely your client is to see your suggestions as solutions rather than just another sales pitch. And what’s more, this builds trust over time.

Know Your Client Inside Out

Consultants are experts in their fields, and part of their job is to know their client’s business almost as well as their own. This deep understanding allows them to make recommendations that truly serve the client’s interests.

As an entrepreneur or professional, take the time to genuinely understand your customer’s pain points. What are their business goals? What do they hope to achieve with your product or service?

When you make suggestions for cross-selling or up-selling, base it on these insights. For instance:

  • If a client has bought a basic package of your software but seems to need more functionality, an up-sell could look like offering the premium version—because you know it will make their processes more efficient.
  • If they’ve bought one service, you might suggest an additional one that complements it, improving their overall experience or outcome.

The difference lies in why you’re offering it. If it’s because you know it will benefit them based on your knowledge of their needs, you’re thinking like a consultant.

It’s All About Long-Term Relationships, Not Short-Term Gains

The classic salesperson mentality often revolves around the quick win, focusing on immediate sales numbers and quotas. But consultants? They’re playing the long game. Their goal is to build relationships that last, because they know that happy clients will come back again and again.

If you approach cross-selling and up-selling with the mindset of building trust and long-term relationships, you won’t feel the need to push unnecessary products or services onto clients. Instead, your aim will be to ensure that their investment with you grows over time because they see your business as a reliable partner.

This long-term view does wonders for building customer loyalty. Your clients will trust that when you do offer something additional, it’s because it genuinely makes sense for them—not just for your bottom line.

Stop Selling, Start Advising

A consultant doesn’t walk into a meeting thinking, “What can I sell today?” They walk in thinking, “How can I help today?” This is the key to successful cross-selling and up-selling.

The goal is to stop thinking about the immediate sale and start thinking about advising. Ask yourself these questions before offering an additional product or service:

  • Will this actually help my client?
  • Does it align with their goals or current needs?
  • Am I offering a solution, or just pushing a product?

If you can confidently answer ‘yes’ to the first two questions, you’re on the right track.

Moving Forward with a Consultant’s Mindset

So, how can you apply this approach practically in your business?

  1. Listen More, Speak Less: During conversations with your clients, spend more time listening than talking. Pay attention to what they’re telling you about their needs, challenges, and goals. Your ability to cross-sell or up-sell successfully starts with truly understanding their situation.
  2. Tailor Your Offerings: Generic recommendations rarely work. Tailor your suggestions based on what will genuinely improve your client’s situation. It’s not about offering everything in your inventory; it’s about offering the right things.
  3. Follow Up Thoughtfully: Consultants don’t vanish once the ‘deal’ is done. After you’ve made a recommendation, follow up with your client to see how it’s working for them. This builds trust and opens up more opportunities for future solutions.

How Can You Shift Your Approach to Help, Not Sell?

Think about your last attempt at cross-selling or up-selling. Did it feel like a sales pitch, or were you offering a real solution? Shifting your mindset from salesperson to consultant doesn’t happen overnight, but it’s worth the effort. After all, customers don’t remember the person who sold them a product—they remember the person who solved their problem.

So, the next time you find yourself in a position to cross-sell or up-sell, ask yourself: are you there to make a sale or to make a difference?

FeedbackFans.com Managing Director - Chris Barnard

Chris Barnard has spent over 15 years delivering exceptional digital marketing performance for ambitious businesses in the UK, Europe and North America through his marketing technology business, FeedbackFans.com and as an independent business consultant.

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